Caitlin Mayo
Mrs. Robinson
Honors English III
December 5, 2007
Addiction: The Never Ending Battle
As his fist passed up my face and punctured the delicate wall, I knew that things were never going to be the same again. Simplicity slyly slipped through the broken wall and out of our broken home. Dependence was controlling our lives and distorting a person I thought that I knew and loved. Every type of addiction causes a barrier in relationships due to a lack of trust and constant disappointment. The development of an addiction is difficult to understand; however, several factors in a person’s environment add to the risk of an addiction. Addiction takes over and deforms the addict, producing a stranger. If the addict reaches recovery, there is a huge possibility that they will discover a new “fix” and grow to have a second addiction. Falling into remission, a possibility in the stages of recovery, puts a strain on relationships and causes people to drift away from each other. Addiction causes life to spiral out of control for everybody involved; addiction causes families to fall apart.
What could have caused this? Did he not have everything handed to him? How could he have just thrown away our family? Reflecting on the situation, the causes never seemed apparent. The development of an addiction could be caused due to countless factors. Dealing with the most -related influence from their peers, adolescents are likely to acquire an addiction. The graph below incorporates the sickening fact that the majority of substance abusers fall into the age group of our country’s youth.
As a teenager, experimenting with illegal substances is not uncommon, and most people try it out because everybody around them is doing it and interest builds.
Furthermore, people begin using in order to improve their performance or because they believe that they will feel good. Most people that are searching for these benefits show academic failure or mischievous behavior in school. Suffering from depression gives people a reason to hunt for happiness. The misleading advantages of lures depressed people into addiction as well. Although the beginning effects of the seem to help, the new source of happiness will ultimately produce a more severe degree of depression. People suffering from depression use as a way to fabricate deeper psychological issues. The generic motive for initiating the use of is usually minor and due to adolescent curiosity. Meaningless experimentation should not be given a chance to develop into an uncontrollable problem.
Even though strong parental guidelines are vital in an adolescent’s life, resorting to to relieve stress is common in teenagers due to the pressure that is created by overly concerned parents and stern educational structures. Teenagers have various influences outside of their family telling them what is right and wrong, creating authoritative rules at home to be necessary in order to display a clear message. In contrast to excessive parenting, people are prone to addiction when they face a lenient setup. The easygoing environment causes a sense of approval dealing with related behavior. Most parents were raised during the ‘60s and ‘70s, a time in history when were widely accepted. Adults have continued to use throughout their lives and are now having an influence on their children:
“Some parents believe that sharing an occasional joint with their teenager can ease family tensions and make a parent seem more like a buddy in whom their teen can confide. Parents also might view it as an easy way to explain their own past use” (Leinwand 82).
Besides sharing experiences with their children that involve , parents also provide their children with a safe place to use illegal substances. Some parents, that have first hand knowledge with use, would rather have their children taking at home rather than out on the streets. Being involved allows parents to keep an eye on their children and make sure they are, to some extent, safe. When parents think they are teaching their children to practice the safe use of , they are actually supplying a deformed definition of what is ethical. A parent having laid back opinions about causes teenagers to take use less seriously. Lacking restrictions creates uncontrollable impulses that lead to addiction.
The background in which a person is raised has an enormous impact on the habits and values that they obtain. The condition of families can put a person at a higher risk for addiction. Living in an impoverished environment causes to be more prevalent and easier to access. Furthermore, when a family structure is unhealthy and has a high level of conflicts, there is a cause to search for an outlet to relieve stress. Most people are trying to escape from their problems; however, by resorting to they are only temporarily at ease with their lives. Instead of seeking a short-term source of happiness, substance abusers should face their problems head on by dealing with the deeper issues that are causing them to “escape”.
When the parental figure personally faces problems with addiction, their children have a higher possibility of suffering from addiction as well. A family history of substance abuse causes children to associate the unstable conduct as being common.
“LaKiesha, 15, of Southern California, is the third generation of a family in which members have become addicted to . LaKiesha says her grandmother smoked pot regularly and gave her a few puffs when she was 5 years old, to settle her down before bedtime” (Leinwand 85).
Addiction is not necessarily hereditary but is seen throughout generations of family’s because children growing up around substance abuse begin associating it as normal behavior. When the children of addicts become s, they often live in a setting similar to the one that they were raised in: commonly including unbalanced structure and forms of addiction. The continuous cycle of compulsion causes endless, unhealthy frictional family bonds.
Our family was being torn apart by his senseless mistakes. He outrageously put the blame on my parents, who were appalled by his actions. The guilt had captured their emotions; my parents became miserable. I don’t think he realized how much his actions would affect our family. When he was using , he was a different person. I knew that his main concern now was getting high. He wasn’t always like this:
“He started smoking pot almost every day. He began defying teachers, ditching school and skipping hockey practice. “I was taking our household pets and selling them for money for ,” says Jason, now in treatment at a Phoenix House in Orange County, Calif. “I took my brother’s 3-foot iguana and sold it for a bag of weed. That’s low” (Leinwand 84).
While people are suffering from addiction, their thought processes behave unusually and they transform into relentless beings searching for pleasure. Finding the next “fix” becomes their first priority; therefore, everything else in their lives becomes less significant:
“When used habitually, they [drugs] deplete the supply of dopamine and interfere with the feedback between different parts of the brain that coordinate desires with priorities and expectations. Eventually, desire for the may trump most other desires. The no longer provides much pleasure, if any, but everything else is providing even less” (Harvard Mental Health Lettter).
A strain is imposed on relationships due to the magnitude of the addiction. In order to obtain relief, addicts go about fulfilling their needs in a devious manner. The deception creates a lack of trust and initiates constant disappointment. During the time of confrontation and intervention, the addict typically shares the blame with the people that are close to them. By holding other people responsible for their own actions, they are able to avoid the shame brought on by their addiction. Although blaming others is easier for the addict, people that are close to them are faced with a feeling of resentment and hostility. Even though forgiveness is a struggle, an addict lacking the feeling of remorse adds to the difficulty.
When the issue of addiction is faced, people are then introduced to the battle of recovery. At times, recovery can be a harder process to overcome due to the pain that rises to the surface. For those who are close to the addict, confusion is a familiar emotion. Recovery is a time for the unanswered questions to be answered. Obstacles arise when the truth does come out and is taken in by those involved. A strong support system is necessary to heal; recognizing that recovery is impossible to go through alone is difficult to acknowledge by everybody. While going through recovery, the possibility of relapse is always present. Addicts associate as being a gratifying sensation because of the satisfaction that they provided in the past. Even when the pleasure wears off, “the brain is still receiving difficult-to-resist signals of imminent reward that command the addict to take the again” (Harvard Mental Health Letter). The difficulty of quitting is not physical but mental:
“Addicts have learned too well to expect a rewarding experience from the . After a while, the addict’s environment is pervaded with cues—reminders of the that cause the release of dopamine and predict a reward. This kind of learning is called behavioral conditioning, and the result is sometimes called cue-induced craving” (Harvard Mental Health Letter).
Addicts link the use of substances with, “people, places, and things” (Harvard Mental Health Letter, Alcoholics Anonymous Doctrine). For different people, cues could be people they were around when they were using , the sight of paraphernalia, familiar places they associate the use of with, or persistent feelings of depression, stress, and anger. Cues can initiate relapse even after being clean for several years. Recovery in substance abusers is more difficult to defeat. The continuous use of harmful materials causes weak self-control and parts of the brain to become, “less effective at incorporating the information it needs to make decisions and judge the consequences of actions” (Harvard Mental Health Letter). Relapsing causes an addict to feel that they are a lost cause and cannot be helped. When family members discover the setbacks and realize the addict’s lack of commitment to recovery, they too begin to feel that the addict is beyond the point of healing. The negative effects of relapse feed the reasons for addiction and cause the addict to lose the desire to seek help. Another possibility in the processes of recovery, is an issue known as cross addiction. Suffering from cross addiction occurs when an addict, while undergoing stages of recovery, acquires a new addiction. The new addiction may seem less severe; nonetheless, the situation is extremely harmful and misleading. Although the addict may have refrained from using dangerous substances, they are still displaying addictive traits. Cross addictions cause people to lack a full recovery and simply transfer their addiction to a new source of pleasure. Countless barriers are possible throughout the stages of recovery, creating a complicated stage in an addict’s journey.
Even if a full recovery seems impossible at times, there are numerous ways to avoid failure. Group therapy, the most common way to remain sober, allows addicts a chance to relate to people that find themselves in similar situations. The main purpose of group therapy is to work through deeper psychological issues that have been brought on by addiction and to teach relapse prevention skills. Becky Stewart—a guidance counselor at Croatan High School—-feels that, as a family member of an addict, the hardest part of helping a person through recovery is by refusing to enable them. By permitting an addict to have a small portion of a substance, you are only damaging their recovery. The most effective way to aid a person in healing is to sternly forbid them from returning to their addictive traits and provide unyielding support. A full recovery will only arise through the full commitment of everybody involved.
The treacherous journey of an addict is extremely excruciating and complex. Every circumstance involving the use of could at some point evolve into a larger, out of control crisis, one in which a person’s entire life can fall apart. The easiest way to avoid addiction is to steer clear of any substance that could cause damage to yourself or the people around you. Addicts might think that they are just having a good time or that it is their life and they can make their own decisions, but their actions affect everybody that cares about them. When people make careless decisions that lead them down a dark path, they take all of the people that love them down too. Certain substances should not be allowed to control a person’s characteristics and actions. Once the problem of addiction is faced head on, the cooperation of everybody involved is vital in order to obtain a full recovery: a person needs to want to be helped in order to be helped.